I always believe there’s a funny plot twist in every person’s life story, something that happens to them very ironically when they think they’re the last person it can happen to. To me that thing was getting married. Despite the endless – sometimes subliminal – pressure you get all your life as a girl to get married, to have kids and live a “proper” life, I kept on chanting Anouk’s “Nobody’s Wife” like it was my personal anthem. I kept on laughing when my friends tell me despite what I say, I’ll be the first one to get married. I couldn’t be in serious relationships and marriage simply wasn’t fit for me.
Then, at 19 years old, I met the love of my life. After dating for 7 years we got married when we were 26 years old. And yes, we were the first ones among our friends to get married. It wasn’t a splashy proposal and a show off wedding. It wasn’t because we had to get married because we’ve been together for so long and that’s how it was supposed to be. We got married because we both wanted to and quite frankly because I needed a Canadian Visa to stay with him in Canada and getting married was the quickest and easiest way to get that. Without that requirement I don’t know if we’d ever got married. Probably yes, but probably a lot later. It was never something I looked forward to, and still to this day I don’t use my full name unless I legally have to and I don’t wear my wedding ring – not because I’m not committed but because being a wife is not something that defines me.
Every society has norms and expectations for women that limit our lives, that make our decisions for us, that put expiration dates on things we don’t even know if we want or not. Right now I’m struggling with defending my decision not to have kids, fighting with people accusing me of being selfish and that I don’t know what’s best for me, that my opinions will change in the future and to have a child is the best thing that can happen to me, that being childless means living an empty life. I’m 30 years old, an age I thought I’d be mature enough to understand what those people mean and truly want children, but nothing has changed. I don’t want children and I don’t see my life any less happy than those with children. Maybe I will have children in 5 years, maybe in 10, maybe never. Maybe I’ll adopt, maybe I’ll sacrifice everything I have to help children around the world someday. Maybe our house will be filled with children laughter (and cries!), maybe I’ll just have pets. It’s my decision and I’m doing everything I can to make sure no one dares to interfere with that.
One of my favorite skincare brands SK-II addresses this issue in their latest hero film “The Expiry Date” and they invite women everywhere to challenge the idea of having an expiry date, to challenge the norms, to marry on their own terms and to live their own life. It was really inspiring to see such a big and internationally renowned brand to draw attention to a problem many people fail to recognize. We have to talk about this, we have to support the independence of women and we have to change the belief that women have expiration dates. Watch the video below and spread the word, become a part of change!
This is a sponsored post, in partnership with SK-II
I think there was only one way to make a slip dress look cooler and even more sexy at the same time and Millie +Lou managed to find it: hot pressing harriet prints on a vintage ivory satin apron dress. I’m so insanely in love with this dress I even got over my “wearing sleepwear outside” phobia (FOWSO?) – I needed a trench to make it more city-friendly but I’m taking this baby to vacation and there will be numerous nights where it will be just me and her (and some underwear probably…maybe).
This year I had to postpone all my summer plans (for a little while) thanks to my huge move, but as a Mediterranean at heart, summer starts within before it does anywhere else. Which is why the minute the temperature hits above 20 degrees Celsius, my style changes from structured minimal to clean and laid back almost-bohemian. Leather cross bodies are traded for wicker baskets, bras disappear, anything that touches my skin is doomed to dust until September and of course, my jewelry gets a lot more joyful.
Michael Hill‘s Spirits Bay collection is inspired by the form of Totorere shells, which are worn down by the elements until only the strongest part of the shell remains. Designer Christine Hill’s fascination with these shells began 50 years ago and since then she kept on collecting and sketching them; searching for the purest, most graceful form to transform into a celebration of resiliency and strength. Each piece in the Spirits Bay collection represents a remarkable journey: A masterpiece of nature, shaped by the elements, brought to life in precious metal.
Those of you that follow me on Instagram may already know (because it’s all I talk about lately) that I’m moving to a new, bigger and brighter house next week which means only one thing in my universe: endless furniture shopping. I’ve spent so much time online looking for the “perfect” everything, trying to find the best version of an interior concept I have in my mind for the best possible price.
Vintage is usually a good option but for some things (especially big furniture) you just want to have something brand new – with a vintage look – and that’s when I dove into the world of Rove Concepts, an exceptional Canadian destination where one can find handcrafted impeccable mid-century and modern-European furniture and home accents. They are selling designs you either can’t find anywhere else or for prices that are unbeatable. Seriously, I heard about them before but my world has changed after I discovered what they’ve been all about.
With their 3 exclusive brand collections (RoveClassics where they recreate iconic pieces [my favorite!!], Kure which is inspired by functional Scandinavian style and designed with sustainable craft and Sandro, their more contemporary line with sleek curvatures, fine lines and technical detail) they are simply connecting objects and people into place. It’s not just the beautiful furniture, it’s the whole idea and story behind that furniture; how it influences your life and shapes your home.
I can’t wait to show you my Rove Concepts stories from my new home but until then, please be my guest and check out their beautiful designs.
This year I’ve become one of the ambassadors and insiders of Etsy Canada, which quite frankly was a no brainer for me the minute I got invited. I spend I don’t know how many hours every day on Etsy looking for handmade home accents or vintage clothes and furniture that I already felt like an honorary Etsy insider anyway. What changed is now I’m more focused on Canadian Etsy shops and this shift of focus made me discover some amazing boutiques – like the incredible Millie + Lou.
This Vancouver based Etsy gem focuses on one of a kind reworks, which means they only use vintage items and recycled textiles for their garments and then use heat transfer techniques to create unbelievable prints on said garments, resulting in one of a kind artwork like ethical clothes. I now own many items from them, but this white denim jacket with an Alexander Calder inspired print at the back has to be my favorite. I really don’t know if I’m cool enough to pull it off but I’ll give it my best shot…